PostSecret.com is a site where people all around the world mail postcards with their secrets on them. The postcards are then posted to the site for the public to view. Since this blog is dedicated to love and the feelings that come with it, I thought I’d share this PostSecret video I saw a couple of years ago.
Jealousy is inevitable and happens in all relationships, near or far. In long distance relationships this can be a greater factor due to all the freedom that is given from one another. Trust is one of the most important elements to making it work and jealousy has to have some regulation.
Here are some of my tips on how to control it:
- Ask for reassurance: It’s ok if you’re feeling a little insecure at times, it happens to everyone. Try not to make accusations and talk it out.
- Set up Skype Dates: Don’t make distance your enemy when it comes to fighting jealousy. Set up phone calls or Skype dates that give you both something to look forward to.
- Confirm Commitment: To avoid misunderstandings (and fights) make sure you’re both on the same page on the status of your relationship.
- Don’t let your imagination get the best of you: When your loved one speaks about someone at work, don’t put your imagination on overdrive. Extreme possessiveness can end your relationship quickly.
(Reference: 9 ways to Cure Jealousy)
The reality of seeing your love every couple of months can be tough at times. However, as anyone in a long-distance relationship can confirm, there’s no one else you would rather be with and what is distance to the heart? ♥
Here are some of my tips:
- Communication is Key!: Due to the fact that you can’t physically see one another, you must practice your communication skills as well as possible. With all the technologies we have today, reaching your loved one is accessible.
- Be Creative: Whether it’d be through sending a silly picture, writing a song, or mailing a letter, little things can keep the romance alive and fun, making the miles apart seem less.
- Express Yourself: Couples who live in the same zip code have problems with this so imagine those who can’t have the power of touch to stay connected. Share your day and make your partner feel cherished. (Reference: AskMen)
- Clear Expectations: The most important secret is explained by Dr. Greg Guldner, director of the Center for the Study of Long-Distance Relationships saying that 70% of LDR fail because they don’t set ground rules from the start.
Never feel discouraged! Here are 10 reasons long-distance relationships are awesome √
This wouldn’t be a true long-distance blog if I didn’t mention one of the most prominent loves overseas. Whether it is your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife in the military, loving someone abroad while they are in bootcamp or stationed across the globe, is not easy. The worry one feels of not knowing if they are ok, if they’ve eaten properly that day, if they’ve gotten at least a couple hours of rest, is heart-wrenching. But you are not alone.
Here are some of my tips:
- Stay Positive: Don’t dwell in the negative rather embrace the love you have.
- Never Stop Writing: Even if you get upset with your current situation, keep sending messages to your loved one. It means so much to them.
- Stay Busy: Take advantage of your time, have fun and before you know it, your loved one will be back.
- Find a Support Team: Surround yourself with people who understand your situation, not those who judge it. There’s plenty of online communities that will make you feel connected and at peace with your situation. Here’s an example of one: TrueMilitary where you can share your stories and get feedback.
More helpful information here: Military.com
Long distance relationships may be harder to maintain than a physical day-to-day relationship. Many argue that the positives and personal growth one gains can outshine the miles of distance. You learn to rely on proper communication and because you don’t have the luxury of picking fights, you begin to realize what really is important. Although numerous fail, many certainly succeed, steering through the obstacles brought on by geography.
However, is this real? Or is it a temporary moment of naive passion and affection? One couple proved that it is as real as it gets. Please click here to see Corinne and Jordan’s wedding expressed through the most beautiful pictures. Although they had to spend some time apart, they fought through the separation and put an end to it by taking the next step together. The pictures convey a feeling a hope and warmth for couple’s just like them.
“Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires” -Francois de La Rochefoucauld
This blog is dedicated to all those in long distance relationships, withstanding the hardships that come with the package, but never forgetting the love that brought them together. Distance is not made for those who are weak rather those who are very brave and strong; those who are willing to spend most of their time alone in exchange to the little they do with the one they love. It’s amazing what we can do for love and this blog goes out to all those hearts that never stop fighting.
And to never forget: Live Your Life, Beautifully.